Like with many things, there's good confidence, and there's stupid confidence.
Good confidence is honestly aware of limitations (as Det. Callahan noted), learns from mistakes, seeks out criticism, and sees the flaws even in successes.
Stupid confidence isn't any of those. Stupid confidence ignores limitations, makes excuses, dismisses critics, and doesn't consider that luck over skill is sometimes a thing.
I remember when inculcating "self-esteem" into young hellions was all the rage by social workers. As if they didn't already have a toxic mega-dose of it. Misplaced self-confidence can be a real killer.
There's one more ingredient to confidence, understanding that it's more important to do the right thing than it is to live forever and acting like you know it.
It's not hubris when you can back it up.
If you want to improve your temper, you have to accept that you're going to get hammered along the way.
Man of Steel and Velvet is a great book about manly values, in my opinion.
Is there a story behind #5 that you've already posted?
Like with many things, there's good confidence, and there's stupid confidence.
Good confidence is honestly aware of limitations (as Det. Callahan noted), learns from mistakes, seeks out criticism, and sees the flaws even in successes.
Stupid confidence isn't any of those. Stupid confidence ignores limitations, makes excuses, dismisses critics, and doesn't consider that luck over skill is sometimes a thing.
There are jails full of the latter.
I remember when inculcating "self-esteem" into young hellions was all the rage by social workers. As if they didn't already have a toxic mega-dose of it. Misplaced self-confidence can be a real killer.
You ever read Meditations on Violence by Rory Miller? Sounds like you have similar philosophies.
There's one more ingredient to confidence, understanding that it's more important to do the right thing than it is to live forever and acting like you know it.